Tuesday, May 28, 2013


The right of parents to direct the upbringing and education of their children has been recognized and upheld for centuries. But there are dark clouds on the horizon.

Today parental rights are coming under assault from federal judges who deny or refuse to recognize these rights. Adding further danger to the child-parent relationship, international law seeking to undermine the parental role is advancing on the horizon. Together, these threats are converging to create a "perfect storm" that looms over the child-parent relationship.
In the early 1980s, a landmark parental rights case reached the Washington State Supreme Court. The case involved 13-year-old Sheila Marie Sumey, whose parents were alarmed when they found evidence of their daughter's participation in illegal drug activity and escalating sexual involvement. Their response was to act immediately to cut off the negative influences in their daughter's life by grounding her.

But Washington law at the time allowed the Department of Social and Health Services (DSHS) to take a child out of her parents' care if  there was "conflict between parent and child." When police and DSHS became involved in an effort to prevent Sheila from running away, she was subsequently removed from her home and placed in foster care.

Her parents, desperate to get their daughter back, challenged the actions of the social workers in court. They lost. Even though the judge found that Sheila's parents had enforced reasonable rules in a proper manner, the state law nevertheless gave CPS the authority to split apart the Sumey family and take Sheila away.1


Parental rights are under attack in our nation, with the first threat originating from within the federal court system. As this story illustrates, a growing disregard for parental rights has been spreading within the courts of our nation.

Across the country, many judges are beginning to deny the vital role of parents in the lives of their children, instead inserting the government into a "parental" role in a child's life. This dangerous assertion is leading to the severance of the child-parent relationship in numerous instances across the nation—removals that cause unnecessary pain to both children and their parents.
A thirteen-year-old boy in Washington State was removed from his parents after he complained to school counselors that his parents took him to church too often. His school counselors had encouraged him to call Child Protective Services with his complaint, which led to his subsequent removal and placement in foster care. It was only after the parents agreed to a judge's requirement of less-frequent church attendance that they were able to recover their son.2


Not all judges hold a low view of parental rights. Some, like Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia, believe that parental rights are among the "inalienable rights" of Americans enumerated in the Declaration of Independence but they are finding it increasingly difficult to rule in favor of parental rights when it is not explicitly included in the language of the Constitution.
In Troxel v. Granville, the last major parental rights case heard by the Supreme Court, Scalia himself voted to deny parental rights the status of an enforceable constitutional right. And other federal court judges are following in his footsteps, citing a mounting belief that no right can be protected by the federal courts unless explicitly stated in the Constitution.
The dwindling support for parental rights found on the federal level has opened the door to a growing, blatant disregard of parental rights within the lower courts of our nation. Parental rights violations are on the increase across the country, as courts exchange parental involvement for government control in the lives of America's children.
The right of parents to direct the upbringing and education of their children is hanging by a thread.
A West Virginia mother was shocked when a local circuit judge and a family court judge ordered her to share custody of her four-year-old daughter with two of the girl’s babysitters. Referring to the sitters as "psychological co-parents," the justices first awarded full custody to them, only permitting the mother to visit her daughter four times a week at McDonalds. Eventually she was granted primary custody, but forced to continue to share her daughter with the sitters.

When her case finally reached the West Virginia Supreme Court of Appeals in October 2007, the beleaguered mother was relieved to finally be granted full custody of her daughter.

In their October 25 opinion Supreme Court justices wrote that they were "deeply troubled by the utter disregard" for the mother's rights. One justice referred to the mother’s right as the “paramount right in the world."

Chief Justice Robin Davis summed up the case in one simple question."Why does a natural parent have to prove fitness when she has never been found unfit?" he asked.3


The precarious state of parental rights within our nation is reason enough for serious concern. With cases like these filling the courts, every parent should be concerned about the protection and preservation of their rights.
But another storm is rapidly forming on the horizon.
International law that seeks to empower the government to intrude upon the child-parent relationship is becoming an increasing threat. The UN Convention on the Rights of the Child (UNCRC), a seemingly harmless treaty with dangerous implications for American families, is approaching possible ratification by the United States.
If this treaty is made binding upon our country, the government would have the power to intervene in any child's life to advance its definition of "the best interests of the child." The scenarios that could occur—and are occurring—as a result of this dangerous notion are both manifold and frightening.
Under the UNCRC, instead of following due process, government agencies would have the power to override your parental choices at their whim because they determine what is in "the best interest of the child."

In essence, the UNCRC applies the legal status of abusive parents to all parents. This means that the burden of proof falls on the parent to prove to the State that they are good parents—when it should fall upon the State to prove that their investigation is not without cause.


There is only one solution to this approaching storm: a constitutional amendment that places current Supreme Court doctrine protecting parental rights into the explicit language of the U.S. Constitution. This amendment will shelter the child-parent relationship from the coming storm, ensuring that parents have the right to direct the upbringing and education of their children.

No government, regardless of how well-intentioned it might be, can replace the love and nurture of a parent in the life of a child. Parents care, not because their children are "wards" for whom they are responsible. Parents are willing to brave danger and sacrifice, hardship and heartache to ensure the best for their kids.

Learn more about protecting parental rights through a constitutional amendment, and join the campaign now. We must not wait until it’s too late. Take this opportunity to sign the petition to protect parental rights today.

Sunday, May 26, 2013

Sick... So sick!

You know your sick when you go to urgent care one night.. and the Emergency Room the next night.. and both diagnose you with something different!

Apparently I have both Strep Throat and Bronchitis. 

I want my stuffed animals and I wanna be in bed! 
I admit I have never had 2 different things at the same time like this.. They had to give me these things called Tesselon Perls which allowed my throat to stop spasming so I could stop coughing myself to the point of losing my dinner.. I will be back to write to you.. when I am again healthy!

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Learning to pray..

Today I am Stressed.. before 8:00 am!
Last night we went to church where a very dear friend of mine did the preaching.. His message..

I have been very LAX.. In my praying.. 
Maybe I am the only one. But I guess it has been my impression that I know God wants me to pray.. But since he is all knowing, All present and know's not only my past but my future.. That since he already know's what I am thinking.. WHY DO I NEED TO TELL HIM WHAT I ALREADY KNOW HE KNOWS!?

But last nights message gave me an insight.
What if God just wants me to tell him what I want so he know's that I really want it..

Example.. When your kid wants a new game.. even if you hear him say so to his friends.. Are you gonna run out and buy it.. Or wait to see if he will actually ask for it?

I know I wait to see if he will ask for it.. Usually I even wait till he has asked a few times.. so I know I won't waste my money/time getting him something that is only a passing desire.. Do you know what I mean?

What if GOD.. IS just like me?
What if God says.. Tonia.. I want you to tell me what you want. I would love to help you.. But if it isn't even important enough to you to to whisper a 5 second prayer.. Why is it important enough for me the creator of everything.. the person responsible for making the heavens move and for the life and death of every soul on earth .. WHY SHOULD I DO ANYTHING..IF YOU DON'T EVEN CARE ENOUGH TO PRAY ABOUT IT?

My thought for the day?

What things have you been assuming God would do for you?
What things do you want God to do for you?

Luke 18:1-6
And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;
Saying, There was in a city a judge, which feared not God, neither regarded man:
And there was a widow in that city; and she came unto him, saying, Avenge me of mine adversary.
And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, Though I fear not God, nor regard man;
Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.
And the Lord said, Hear what the unjust judge saith. 

These were the Scripture Verses my friend preached on.. Are your worries, cares and burdens.. Worth it to you to trouble the Great God of heaven over?

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

If you want MEN.. To act like men.. Then raise your sons to act like a MAN!

Don't you get it?
One of these days there is going to be some woman loving your son.. He is gonna need to know how to treat her. You better be showing him what it means to have CHARICTER!
To do the right thing at the right time..
To hold a job. To provide for his family. To be a parent to the children he spawns..
And to think that it will all suddenly happen when he needs it.. He will "learn as he goes" is Not gonna happen!
If you don't teach him who will?

American folklore is full of stories of men who seemed larger than life. John Henry and Casey Jones - heroes of the railroad era. Paul Bunyan with his swinging ax. David Crockett and the Alamo, Daniel Boone and the Kentucky wilderness, and a host of western personalities - all big and strong and physically impressive.
But physical strength alone does not equal manhood.
In his classic novel, Of Mice and Men, John Steinbeck presents a character who has the body and the muscle tone of a man. In fact, he is an exceptionally strong man. But his mind is that of a child. He cannot think and he cannot grasp abstract and complex ideas. His physique alone does not qualify him for manhood.

A simple glance around and you know that all the rich, all the leaders, all the powerful and the important are not necessarily blessed with manhood. Some are thieves. Some are liars. Some are cheats. Some are cowards. Some are hypocrites. Some are adulterers.
Bernard Madoff, the former respected chairman of the NASDAQ Stock Exchange, bilked investors out of more than $50 billion and ushered in The Ponzi Economy. He lived like a king in series of billion dollar residences but today exists in the disgrace and bleakness of a prison cell, awaiting sentencing, at age 71.
Preachers and teachers and world leaders whose reputation was formerly impeccable, today live in the aftermath of the crime and shame of moral bankruptcy.

Parenthood can come within moments: manhood is a long, tedious process of growth. Parenthood can be the result of a simple, instinctive, biological act - without thought, or planning, or experience, or counting the cost. But manhood demands thorough application of all the mental processes and all the moral fiber one possesses.

Manhood does not whine or whimper.
It does not make excuses for what it knows itself to be.
It does not rationalize. 
It does not blame circumstances. 
It does not blame other people or fate or bad luck or the roll of the dice. 
It does not blame society, either (whatever that may mean).
Manhood does not quibble over the frivolous and the unimportant. 
It does not dream away its days thinking of the uncharted future, nor does it become immobilized with shame for the unchangeable past.
Manhood puts away childish things. It develops attitudes of maturity toward itself, toward others, and toward the basic issues of life.
Manhood shoulders and carries without complaint the full sack of responsibilities associated with maturity. By its very nature, manhood requires the forgetting of self and the acceptance of others. Husbands are responsible for their wives. Fathers are responsible for their children.
Along with proper attitudes and a sense of responsibility, manhood is also characterized by action. A man must be able to act. Opportunities are like arrows upon the wind. They move swiftly. They appear only for a moment and then they are gone. They are not for philosophizing about, they are not for discussing, they are not always for evaluation and calculating.
Opportunities are for seizing. Opportunities are the challenge to manhood.
And only men – real men – are up to their speed and their promise.
The world needs men. The community needs men. The church needs men – real men.
Real manhood is a simple task carried through to completion; 
        the rendering of an honest day's work; 
                the keeping of a trust; 
                        the returning of love unselfishly and without demanding payback.
The rewards of real manhood are myriad - the touch of a child's hand; 
        the soft brush of a wife's lips; 
                the relaxed atmosphere of his own den; 
                        these are only a few of the rewards of manhood.

We need – we must have – more REAL MEN with guts 
                        and backbone 
                                and determination, 
                                              to take a stand in the midst of a gainsaying world

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I don't know about you women.. 
But I long for my sons to be MEN... Not just grown up boys!

Quick Dinner recipe

OK Ladies.. 
Here is a great recipe.
Not that hard either..
Take 2 pounds of boneless skinless chicken breasts
Pound them flat
then stab them full of fork holes (frustration relief )
Now put them in a small glass dish.
Pour ZESTY Italian dressing over them.
Stick them in the refrigerator
for 12+ hours to marinate

When your ready to cook them.. Dinner time..
Place them in a frying pan and fry till cooked through..
Put on top of either sour dough toast
or a nice roll that has been toasted
add lettuce and tomato with mayo or miracle whip..
and presto you have a full meal in one sandwich. With not a lot of hassle 
This is what were having for dinner tonight..

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Patience, Experience and Hope.. God's way!

And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; And patience, experience; and experience, hope: And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us. For when we were yet without strength, in due time Christ died for the ungodly. Romans 5:3-6

Let me take just one moment and elaborate on this thought..

I know that no one likes Tribulations. Tribulations aka Troubles, Trials, Afflictions, Testings or Sufferings. These can come in any number of ways..

Job Loss
Family problems-School issues,Children disobeying,Probation,Behavior issues...
Custody battles..

The above are merely a beginning on a very LARGE list of possibilities of things that can and will put you and your family through some deep tribulations.

Those tribulations produce patience.. God says so.
Did you know that GOD intentionally gives us Tribulations!

WHY? Well let us look into God's word here for a possible reason..

knowing that tribulation worketh patience

God says he knows that when we experience Tribulations.. It works out to produce PATIENCE in our lives... 

Now HONESTLY.. Can you tell me that you don't need some more patience?! 

I sure do!

Once we understand God isn't allowing these things for malicious reasons.. We can start to understand.. These things are used to bring personal growth. And to teach us to trust him. Because he is there.. He does walk with us through each of these situations. 

So what else do these Tribulations do?

And patience, experience,

The tribulations.. work Patience.. and the Patience allows us to have experience.. You who have more than one child understand ... Once you have had one.. and have delt with sleepless nights.. You feel differently about how to prepare for a 2nd child.. Correct.. Why? Because you have EXPERIENCE... You know better what to expect. Why does that matter? Well the very first night of no sleep and then having to get up and go someplace.. Was pretty horrible wasn't it.. But once you start to know how to deal with it.. You pretty quickly either learn to keep a steady supply of Liquid Caffeinated Energy near by.. AKA For all future readers.. IS COFFEE!

But that is how I overcame those sleepless nights.. But my experiance told me I needed that.. I wasn't so hard to deal with.. You know what I mean?

and experience, hope:

How does experiance work hope?

Well as someone who suffers from depression on a fairly frequent basis.. I will tell you.. THERE IS HOPE.. When we know that we have been down the dark tunnel and have survived.. THERE IS HOPE! HOPE THAT IT WILL END, HOPE THAT THE SUN WILL SHINE AGAIN AND HOPE .. That this isn't the end!

However.. For today.. This really is the end..

So my friends.. Please Let God work patience, and experience and Hope.. into your lives!